If you did the evaluation of the people in your life, what did you find? More than likely, if you are like most people in life, you found that there are those in your life that you do not like. They are complainers, always angry, filled with drama, excuse makers...you get the picture. By the same token you hopefully found those in your life that you very much like.
First things first: Since you won them as a friend, what was it in you that one them as a friend? Take the negative people first. Are you negative, angry, crave drama? (funny side note: the most dramatic people I know go on and on about how they hate drama) Yes, I know, it's easier to put the blame on them, to talk about how they are holding you back. But remember, you won them to you. So that my friend is the first step. To evaluate you and fix those things that attracted that type of a person into your life.
Next, look at the positive people, what was it in you that one them as a friend? Once you figure that out, duplicate it with others. Once you start to do this you'll find that two things will happen. First you will begin to attract more positive people into your life. Second, the negative people in your life will begin to either fade away or they themselves will begin to change. Either way you will be better without them in your life.
So what are some steps you can take to be more positive? Here are a few ideas you can begin working on today.
- Turn off the TV - seriously, turn it off! Trust me, you will survive.
- Turn off the Social Media Notifications. Negative drama filled people live to feed social media.
- Go for a Walk, get outside and walk, if you got a partner take them with you, you'd be surprised as to how much you may actually talk.
- Find some positive motivational videos on the internet YouTube is packed with them. Set aside time each morning to listen to at least one.
- Do Something for someone else, more specifically do something that they can do for themselves.
- Find some positive books (I have some listed in my bookstore)
- When around other people, Lift Them UP. Making others feel good makes you feel good.
- Watch your Mouth! When you catch yourself about to say something negative or self-deprecating, stop. Re-word it into something positive and encouraging.
- Smile, no really, smile. Studies show that people who are depressed and practice smiling actually recover from their depression faster.
Hey Scott! Why not 10 ideas? Because everybody does a list of 10...me, I did 9 :)